Stress Less by Keeping your Life Balanced Pt.1

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Do you feel in your LIFE right now that there is no end in sight, and no Hope for change in the situations that are pressing down hard in your Life today?  I can Truly relate to how your feeling, I have had some times in my Life where I thought I would never see the light at the end of the tunnel. There are so many people living today that are feeling completely “OVERWHELMED” with Life. You have to take the time to slow down and listen to your soul and your body, there are many things in your Life that you are doing or are going on around you that may be causing you undue stress. Since your Life is going at a such a fast pace , you don’t even think about the things that are causing it and you remain in that Stress state of life never actually considering that you just may have a Choice.

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Let’s go back for  moment and and take a look at your Priorities in Life, that is a huge factor in your life and the Stress you endure on a day to day basis. Everyone is living in different seasons of their lives, so everyone’s priorities will be different to them. A huge cause off feeling overwhelmed and off balance is due to the fact that we are not living by our priorities. You may be living on Auto Pilot and just doing what is thrown at you or may be doing the things you are “supposed” to do imposed by families  and or the culture around you. To regain some control in your life , you must determine what your priorities are at this point in your Life You have to think about the activities your doing in your day, and figure out if this is something you choose or something that has just become a habit , does or do these activities get you where you want to be in Life, are they aiming towards your Goal, or are they taking you away from your Goal for your Life?  That right there is a Huge reason why you could be Overwhelmed and Stressed with Life, Your not running your Life with the Priorities that are most important to you in this season of your Life.  It is time to do some real soul searching to determine what your priorities are in your life. You need to pull your values list out as  well and refer to it as you choose your priorities . Defining your priorities is an important step in balancing your Life.

Here is a list of Values …..Pick about 20 of them, and then I will give you a list of Priorities that I would like you to put in order for for yourself to give you an accurate feeling of where you are in Life and what is most important to YOU right now in your Life.

ADVENTURE                  TO CATALYZE                 TO CONTRIBUTE                        TO RELATE

Risk                                       Impact                                          serve                                                   be connected

the unknown                       Move forward                              Improve                                             Part of a Community

Thrill                                    Touch                                            Argument                                          Family

Danger                                 Turn on                                         Assist                                                    To Unite

Gamble                                Unstick Others                          Endow                                                    To Nurture

Dare                                    Coach                                             Strengthen                                          To nurture

Endeavor                           Encourage                                     Minister to                                          Be Linked

Experiment                        Influence                                      Grant                                                    Be bonded

Venture                                Stimulate                                      Provide                                              Be With

BEAUTY                 PLEASURE           TO FEEL                         TO DISCOVER

Grace                          Have fun                    emote                                Learn

Refinement               Sensual                       To Experience                  Detect

Elegance                    Bliss                            Sense                                  Perceive

Attractiveness          Be Amused                  To Glow                            Realize

Readiance                  Be entertained           Be With                             Uncover/discern

Magnificence            Play Games                  Energy Flow                     Distinguish

taste                            sports                           in touch with                    Observe

TO CREATE                    MASTERY                                    TO LEAD                                  BE SENSITIVE

Design                                  Expert                                                Guide                                            Tenderness

Invent                                   Dominate field                                 Inspire                                          Touch

Synthesize                          Adept                                                   Influence                                      Perceived

Imagination                        Superiority                                      Cause/Arouse                               BE Present

Ingenuity                             Primacy                                              Enroll                                            empathize

Originality                           Preeminence                                    Reign                                              Support

Conceive                             Greatest                                              Govern                                           Show Compassoin

Plan                                     Best                                                     Rule                                                  See

Build                                    Outdo                                                 Persuade

Perfect                                Set standards                                    Encourage

Pick out about 15 to 20 of  these values that are most important to you and write them down.

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Now check 6 to 8 things that are most important to you at this point in your Life……..

*raising well rounded children

*Close relationship with Spouse

*Close extended family

*health and well-being

*meaningful Work

*long term relationships

*supportive community

*creative pursuits

*travel and adventure

*financial freedom

*spiritual Life

*beautiful home enviroment

*recreation and fun

*community service

*personal growth

*giving to those in need

*time to relax

*being respected

*being self-employed

*being well-read

*education

*spending time in Nature

*taking care of enviroment

Now you can add some of your own, please do your best and put them in order of importance, not all of them , maybe 6 to 8 of them, according to your own life.

These few exercises will give you a start on what is most important to you in your life right now, which will help you when you have to make those list of to-do’s and what you really have to get done, which is what is next……What and Who is controlling your schedule and or To-Do List!!!!

Now that you know what is most important to you right now in your life, it is time to line it up with what you are doing on a daily basis right now. Most people use some kind of to-do list, so lets take a look at your list and calendar. The list of activities and appt. , did you make the choice to add them? Do you have your child signed up for an organized activity?  Was that on your list of values or was quiet family evenings on your list of values?  Were you looking for an activity that your kids could to together? An activity they could bond together with and teach them self respect , then you have chosen a great activity , one that is in line with your values and priorities.

Then there are the responsibilities you have taken on without really thinking it over , and some of those are causing you overwhelm and stress, As a mom who has and is raising four children, you just can’t let them choose for themselves every activity that they want to do, or you will go completely crazy…..believe me!!!  You have to say no, it may sound selfish but you have to stick with what lines up with your priorities as a family and those you want for you kids as well and learn to say no once in a while. As far as your to-do list goes, are you putting down all the activities or are you letting others just put things on your plate to do as well, have you become the go-to person for all those around you?  I know I did, and it almost led me right into the hospital You can’t become everyone’s dumping ground. I was always one who wanted to help people out all the time , but after awhile it became too much and I just couldn’t keep up , I became Overwhelmed!!!!  I had to learn to say ” I am sorry, that is something I am not going to be able to get to” It certainly helped my Life become less stressful .

You have to learn to but the Shoulds in your life and daily activities. You may have things in your life right now because you feel that you should be doing them, Ask yourself “Why?  Why should I be doing this. if the answer is in line with your values and priorities , then maybe they need to be on your to-do list, if not then you need to remove them immediately or put steps in place to remove it from you life. Do what is important to you.

You need to gain balance in your life and to do that you need to gain balance and control over your to-do list. Start making conscious decisions about what you may be adding (or subtracting) from your Life.

Who is Controlling My To-Do List?   Not going to write out or draw the whole chart put put the baisics down for you and you can make chart from there and use it daily to see what you need to add or subtract from your Life, then I will follow up with next post on getting deeper into finding balance to your life thru Faith!!!! (extremely Important to achieving Balance in Your Life)

OK, first on your paper should be…...Task or Activity, draw a line down the paper and the next big block on top should be Necessary, then According to Priorities , then Someone else put on you, Can you stop doing,  Start Doing

OK that is all at the top of your paper with each one in bold in a box with lines going down page to list your activity and check off according to your Values and Priorities. This should help you clean up your to-do list with your values and what is important for you to be doing right now in your season of Life. Let’s start getting our Lives back in Balance , there is alot more to go but this should keep you busy for a bit………

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